Episode #171: Elsie’s Shifting Dwelling to Missouri
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This week, Elsie is sharing an enormous private replace (a yr within the making)!
Seize a cup of espresso or tea and prepare to listen to the lengthy model of when and why I’m shifting again to my hometown in Missouri.
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Present Notes
Elsie is shifting!!!
Why we determined to maneuver:
-We now not have a profession cause to dwell in Nashville
-Certainly one of our mother and father had a well being scare
-To see Emma and Oscar extra
Favourite issues concerning the new home:
-Curb enchantment, seems like a film home
-Fire within the kitchen
-A number of potential
Very first thing Elsie purchased:
Lighting fixtures (classic and new). Listed here are some hyperlinks: Metal Lanterns / Hand Sconce / 3-Light Chandelier / Round Chandelier
What we are going to miss most about our residence in Tennessee:
-Pals
–Hewitt Garden and Design Center
-Our hidden library and library eating room
What Emma is worked up for:
-Working collectively
-Being a extra current aunt
-Recording the podcast collectively
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Episode 171 Transcript:
Elise: You’re listening to The Stunning Mess Podcast, your cozy consolation pay attention. This week I’m sharing an enormous private replace a yr within the making, so seize a cup of espresso or tea and prepare to listen to the lengthy model of when and why I’m shifting again to my hometown in Missouri.
Emma: Dum, dum, dum, dum.
Elise: I can’t imagine it. Emma was simply saying, we really feel like we’ve been speaking about this for a yr as a result of it was like a really slow-coming resolution on our half and one thing that we’ve been engaged on for a very long time. However we needed to attend till it was very official to share it right here. So yeah, it feels unusual to lastly speak.
Emma: Yeah, and sadly we already named an episode, “Oops, I’m shifting once more” so we will’t reuse that, however it’s true as soon as once more.
Elise: Sure, completely. So, one thing that I spotted about myself form of lately, despite the fact that it’s been happening my total life, is that I’m obsessive about change, completely always. So the longest I’ve ever lived in any residence was for 4 and a half years the place we lived in our first residence in Tennessee the place we adopted our youngsters and all the things. In order that’s the longest I’ve ever lived wherever since I moved out from my father or mother’s home. However more often than not I’ve moved yearly or two, which I don’t like that about myself. I don’t condone it as way of life. I don’t assume it’s wholesome, and it’s not what I would like for my children sooner or later, however I’m admitting that it’s true. And that it’s one thing that has all the time been, I’ll all the time be only a one who has plenty of itch for change. So I assume I’m gonna have to determine a technique to specific that in different methods.
Emma: Yeah, I feel expressing in different methods is an efficient technique to put it. Trigger I really don’t assume it’s unhealthy to crave change and to wish to transfer and to desire a contemporary begin. I feel that’s actually like fairly regular. I simply assume your life’s now at a spot, you understand, you was once like after highschool and stuff, you’re single and then you definitely get married and it’s simply you two, after which, you understand, however, and yeah, so now you may have much more folks to think about. It impacts much more folks when you transfer now than it used to, and so naturally I feel might need to alter considerably, however I wouldn’t say it’s unhealthy to crave change and to desire a contemporary begin. I feel that’s actually fairly regular. I simply assume there are plenty of methods to specific it.
Elise: Yeah. And I do need my children to have a childhood residence that they keep in mind as their childhood residence, not like 10. I like absolutely admit that. However anyway, we nonetheless are the place we’re proper now. So let’s inform this entire story as a result of I do know from simply having advised my shut associates over the previous yr, I do know all of the questions individuals are gonna ask and there are such a lot of legitimate questions. So to start out out the story, why we determined to maneuver, cuz the home we dwell in now, we fully adore it. There’s nothing about it aside from the truth that it’s not previous, there’s nothing about it I’d change, I really like this residence. I’m actually pleased with the initiatives we did. I added all my fake fireplaces and bookshelves and the hidden library, which is like my soulmate venture of my life. And we adore it right here and we’ve nothing dangerous to say about Nashville. Not one single factor, not even the bachelorettes. Nothing to say dangerous. We’ve liked our entire eight years right here and I feel that we simply realized after we moved right here through the Covid period, that Jeremy’s profession had modified. So we moved right here initially cuz my husband was engaged on his profession in songwriting. And he did plenty of songwriting. He did plenty of the songwriting that you simply watch on television. When you see a film like, what’s that film with Woman Gaga? Have you learnt what I imply? And Bradley Cooper.
Emma: Yeah, A Star is Born.
Elise: Sure. Like that kind of factor the place folks like to take a seat down with a guitar and truly write a music collectively. Individuals in Nashville do this on a regular basis, and Jeremy tried that, however it’s simply not how his inventive mind works. So he hasn’t been doing that for some time, however he would kind of work nearly with folks and he was nonetheless songwriting just about since I met. However over the past couple years, he began this different enterprise, which is a digital instrument enterprise. So it’s nonetheless in music, however it’s fully totally different from songwriting. However he makes like all the pattern music for it and stuff just like the demos that they launched to show about their devices. So he’s very fulfilled, he’s doing his dream and he’s now not songwriting anymore. So as soon as we began to comprehend that, we have been like, you understand, we don’t want to remain in Nashville and our youngsters are on the age the place if we’re going to go away, we wanna take into consideration that now. We don’t wanna wait too lengthy as a result of I do know all mother and father have totally different opinions, however lots of people have advised me to attempt to get it accomplished as early as attainable after which keep settled by way of their older years of college if attainable. So anyway, final Christmas I bought actually bored the week after Christmas, as all of us do. And I used to be sitting on the pink home and I feel Jeremy was like working within the bed room on his songs for his firm. And I used to be like on Zillow and I do know all of it goes hill from right here. And I fell into this factor of, for days researching like principally each metropolis within the US the place I would wanna dwell, and, rapidly I needed to maneuver to New York. I discovered a neighborhood after which I simply fell down this rabbit gap that was months lengthy the place we have been severely contemplating shifting to New York. I keep in mind once I advised Emma we have been within the parking zone of Shake Shack and she or he was like, nicely, I assume I’ll get pleasure from visiting you in New York she felt prefer it was simply inevitable.
Emma: Normally when Elsie says she’s doing one thing, I imply, most likely your husband feels totally different, however I’m simply form of like, nicely, I assume she’s doing that, so yeah. I’m not gonna speak her out of it. So, you understand, it’s simply taking place.
Elise: Yeah, we discovered this lovely, like I’m obsessed, excellent little neighborhood. And we visited there, we had a realtor, we did like all these steps and my husband was, Into it a bit of bit, however he was method, method, far more hesitant than I used to be. I used to be undoubtedly the one who was steamrolling the state of affairs a bit of bit and he was pondering it over nonetheless, I assume. After which final summer season we had a state of affairs the place one in every of our mother and father had a well being scare that was very severe and really scary, and I’d say life-changing in identical to, it was a second for me to comprehend that this a part of our life isn’t going to final ceaselessly and that I haven’t been spending the form of time with my mother and father and nicely with my in-laws and my mother and father that I wish to spend. The opposite factor that additionally was changing into clear at the moment is that Emma has a bit of child and I used to be seeing him like 5 instances a yr once I felt like I may very well be seeing him like 50 instances a yr or 100 instances a yr. After I see him, he doesn’t actually acknowledge me, which is like exhausting for me as a result of clearly, I wanna be a giant a part of his life, however that’s not attainable in a day-to-day method while you dwell in one other state. So perhaps once they’re a bit of older it’s a bit of bit simpler, however that’s one other consideration I used to be pondering over. So, yeah, contemplating shifting to New York was like a dream within the metropolis method, however in a household method, it was most likely gonna make our struggles even worse.
Emma: Yeah as a result of additionally there aren’t any direct flights from Springfield, Missouri, our hometown, the place each her mother and father dwell in her in-laws and in addition me, to New York. The closest metropolis you need to go to for a direct flight I feel is Bentonville.
Elise: There are just about no direct flights wherever aside from Florida and one or two different locations.
Emma: Which, it’s not the top of the world to have a connecting flight, that’s actually not a giant deal. But it surely’s a time of yr when there’s dangerous climate. It simply will get dicey the place it will probably form of mess up your journey or make it the place your journey is longer, however you see your loved ones even much less, you understand what I imply? It’s simply one other issue.
Elise: So anyway, I’m gonna form of simply skip over the New York half, however I needed to acknowledge it cuz it was form of a giant a part of the yr. I advised most likely dozens of folks that we have been shifting there and we have been very severe about it for some time, however it wasn’t a long-lasting plan.
Emma: Nicely, what I feel’s humorous about that’s Elsie and I’ve been to New York Metropolis many instances for work through the years and for enjoyable. New York is clearly a extremely cool metropolis. Clearly, it’s very well-known. It’s in each single film ever of all time, principally. So it’s actually cool, however it’s by no means a spot that both of us was ever simply dying to dwell in New York. I feel everybody has a pal who’s like, massive cities are the place for me. And we have been by no means that method. In order that’s only one factor that I form of like about you is that you’ll open up your coronary heart to one thing that you simply beforehand have been like, no. Like Elsie form of has no drawback being like, oh, I used to be improper about that. And now I adore it. And I feel that’s form of like a enjoyable factor about you.
Elise: Thanks. Yeah, no, I needed to dwell in a Victorian home in Brooklyn, which is fairly totally different from dwelling in like skyscraper in Manhattan or no matter. However yeah, it was unusual as a result of I by no means thought, however now I feel like that’s undoubtedly my coast. Like if ever sooner or later, you understand? I’m very drawn to that a part of the nation proper now. At this level, I’m simply gonna like go to there 100 instances as a result of it’s a good spot too. Anyway, so when our mother and father had the well being scare, and so my husband and I had a heart-to-heart. It was after we had gone on a household journey together with his household in the summertime. We do it like yearly for the 4th of July, and we have been driving residence and we had a heart-to-heart the place he stated, would you contemplate shifting again to Springfield? And up till that time, in that entire eight years we had lived in Tennessee, I had a lot of factors the place I used to be like, perhaps we must always transfer again to Springfield as a result of there’s like, you possibly can’t dwell away out of your entire household with out having these factors infrequently. It’s identical to regular. However he had by no means had that earlier than, he simply was very positive that he didn’t wanna transfer again.
Emma: He’s not a giant mover both. He’s form of a settle-down form of particular person, you understand?
Elise: Yeah. So for no matter cause, as quickly as he stated it, I already knew that it was taking place, and I felt like my first response was anger as a result of I felt like I wasn’t getting a alternative. So I stated I simply want to consider it for a few weeks. So we bought residence and I did my entire course of, which I assume I can clarify my Stalkery residence course of. I did this in New York too, however I went on Zillow for our hometown and I principally undergo each single avenue and take a look at each single home even when a home isn’t on the market, there’s like previous footage from 5 years in the past or one thing of the final time it was on the market generally like 10 years in the past. And so I did that, there’s just about like one neighborhood in Springfield that we knew we appreciated, after which one different avenue. So just about all these homes, I’ve seen them if it’s attainable too, after which we went there in particular person a few weeks later and did some actually intense strolling excursions and driving by, of each single residence. And we wrote down all of the addresses.
Emma: Couple of break-ins too. Simply kidding.
Elise: That’s humorous. And one thing I knew instantly was, I knew that we have been most likely gonna transfer there. I used to be simply in a section of getting towards the acceptance of it. As a result of clearly, I wish to, I like being round Emma and having the ability to do our work collectively as a substitute of getting to always journey or be actually restricted. Being round my nieces and nephews, there are a ton of them, are additionally all my children’ cousins. That may be a actually massive factor for us. After which being round our mother and father is a giant factor. And I nonetheless have a grandma who resides, which is like the most effective factor ever. Anyway, I used to be open to it, however I used to be simply looking for a technique to trick my mind into not being unhappy as a result of I used to be actually hooked up to the thought of shifting to this sure neighborhood in New York and I had gotten too far alongside and it like emotionally invested. So I spotted {that a} home popping up that was quote-unquote excellent for what we have been searching for most likely wasn’t going to occur due to the true property this previous yr. Anybody who’s been home purchasing is aware of, it’s just like the stock is sort of nothing. Like homes simply aren’t popping up after which when one does pop up, it normally sells instantly. So we began pondering creatively as a result of as soon as we realized we have been gonna transfer, we have been like, okay, nicely we have to transfer both over Christmas or over summer season break due to children’, faculties, there’s no different time to maneuver and that’s essential. So, I began doing letter writing. When you’ve ever heard of this, I’ll clarify what it’s in case you couldn’t think about that anybody would ever do that after which I’ll clarify precisely what we did. So I had heard about a few success tales up to now, however actually, for probably the most half, it doesn’t work. And I knew that however I additionally felt prefer it was the one possibility I had for the time being, and I needed to be proactive and do one thing as a result of simply ready and seeing that there have been no homes that we might even take a look at for months and months and months and months that’s discouraging. So I used to be simply looking for a technique to transfer it ahead in my very own method.
Emma: Yeah. Plus what have you ever bought to, you understand, would possibly as nicely.
Elise: So we might write letters. I feel we wrote a complete of both 4 or 5, I can’t keep in mind. So how I chosen the homes was just about simply by location and figuring out if the home was like some homes, we might see previous footage from the final time it bought, and in a few of the homes, we couldn’t see something. We simply knew the tough sq. footage or we might simply see it from the surface and we have been identical to, this might most likely work. Yeah. We knew we needed a bit of little bit of a much bigger home as a result of we wish to have each of our workspaces in our residence. And that’s one thing that now that we’ve accomplished it so many instances, we wouldn’t compromise once more on we don’t need places of work outdoors of the house. Anyway, I picked a few homes after which my husband picked a few homes. And I wrote handwritten letters to the homeowners. If I might discover their names, I put their names, however normally, you possibly can’t. I simply put proprietor and I knew it seemed like spam. So for individuals who dwell in any form of a fascinating neighborhood, you’ll generally get these letters that form of look handwritten, however in addition they look form of faux the place it’s like, I wish to purchase your house. However you possibly can inform it’s not actual.
Emma: I’ve really additionally, like the primary home I ever purchased, which I talked about in a earlier episode a very long time in the past, we nonetheless personal it and it’s a long-term rental. I get letters on a regular basis that’s like not somebody who desires to purchase the home to dwell in it such as you. It’s extra identical to an investor, I assume. That’s simply wanting to purchase the home cuz it matches their standards or no matter prefer it’s in the suitable neighborhood or no matter. And you may form of all the time inform, cuz it does, it’ll say proprietor, it doesn’t normally say my identify, however generally it says my identify. And generally they’ll look a bit of extra handwritten, however then you definitely open ’em up and it’s simply very like spammy. It’s identical to, we wanna purchase your own home for the bottom attainable worth and preserve renting it and it’s like, okay, nicely I don’t wanna promote it proper now. So yeah, I feel folks get these letters and so they can come off form of like spammy.
Elise: Yeah. So I’d have my children draw on the surface of the envelope, like a bit of crown drawing, I felt like that was like a sign to indicate that it is a actual letter coming from an actual household. I didn’t put footage in it as a result of I simply personally hate it when folks ship footage once they’re making an attempt to purchase my homes. Like while you get affords with footage, I simply assume they’re awkward, so I didn’t do this, however I do know lots of people assume they’re candy and perhaps I’m improper to say that. However I simply wrote principally our household has been dwelling in Nashville for eight years and we’ve determined to maneuver to our hometown over the subsequent yr so if you’re in any respect and I like underlined in any respect, in promoting your own home inside the subsequent yr, please let me know and I’d love to debate. And if not, you may have a phenomenal residence, you understand all that. Have day. After which I would go away my telephone quantity and my e mail. So I bought again three responses out of, I feel 4 or 5 letters. So I assumed that was fairly good. The primary one was saying perhaps subsequent yr, which was form of the worst attainable response as a result of it’s like you possibly can’t make any plan, however you may have your hopes up a bit of bit. And I by no means heard from them once more. And it was identical to perhaps subsequent yr, and the second was completely not , which I appreciated them sending me a textual content. And yeah, it wasn’t like actual pleasant, but in addition I get it they won’t have identified if I used to be an actual particular person or not. After which, it may very well be a scammer. After which the third one was, Emma was with me once I bought this textual content. It was Jeremy’s first alternative for a home, I’ll say that. To begin with. So it was like out of all the homes, it was most likely the best-located home and it was a home that I all the time drove by and like lusted after as a 20-year-old and stuff. It was simply a type of homes that you simply drive by in your hometown and also you’re like, what’s that one? Have you learnt what I imply? Such as you would like to go inside it sort of factor. They usually despatched me a textual content and it stated, concerning the property at blah, blah, blah, deal with Elsie, I couldn’t imagine once I opened your letter with all of the candy drawings out of your ladies, except for following a phenomenal mess for years, you photographed our wedding ceremony in 2004. I feel we’d have been one of many final weddings after which she describes which wedding ceremony it’s after which she stated, my husband, Clean and I’ve been pondering of shifting for some time now. After which she describes plenty of her private state of affairs of why they wanna transfer and so they say, we might be completely satisfied to maneuver ahead and determine some particulars. Your letter has are available such a serendipitous method that I’d love for this superb residence to go to somebody like your loved ones, who I do know would treasure it. So, yeah. It was the most effective moments ever. And I had been asking the universe for an indication as a result of I used to be nonetheless experiencing plenty of regret, and disappointment about, simply particularly not planning to maneuver to this neighborhood in Brooklyn anymore and I used to be nonetheless getting over that. So once I bought this textual content, I did take it as an indication that we have been on the suitable path, as a result of I simply assume that, I imply, I solely photographed weddings for like two years once I was in my early twenties. It was my first enterprise. I’ve by no means heard from anybody once more. It was only a actually very long time in the past, virtually 20 years. So, yeah, I took it as an amazing signal, after which, after that, we form of stayed in contact and it took about six months to have the ability to really buy the home from them. So it was an extended course of, however I feel since that second I knew that it was meant to be and that we have been on the suitable path.
Emma: Signal from the universe?
Elise: Sure. Okay. So we’re shifting this summer season and we’re simply ready to let our daughter get out of first grade earlier than we transfer, after which we are going to most likely transfer in June-ish. And we’ve closed on our residence in Missouri already. So now we’ve began doing just a few renovations there, and I don’t assume it wants an overhaul. I discovered a giant lesson two years in the past once I began a giant main renovation in October. So for this residence, I simply wanna transfer in a clean method and luxuriate in Halloween and luxuriate in Christmas. After which after that, I might see us beginning a giant renovation in perhaps January or so. However I don’t wish to interrupt Christmas or the vacations like ever once more with renovating it wasn’t price it to satisfy in any respect. So, it’s gonna be a contented summer season. I spotted this week that we’ve been planning this transfer and in addition we promised our daughter for her birthday in June that we might get a pet. So then I spotted that like I feel I volunteered to get a pet the week that we transfer, which perhaps wasn’t a good suggestion, however can be now It’s kind of set in stone. She’s actually enthusiastic about it.
Emma: Yeah. So she’s bought names picked out. It’s taking place. Yeah. It may not be the most effective timing, however who’s ever gonna remorse getting a pet? Come on, what are you able to do?
Elise: It’s true. So yeah, I really feel like we bought our signal. We bought the right home for us. So perhaps I ought to describe the home just a bit bit. So we needed to wait two months after we first texted the homeowners to enter the home in particular person to look, and I’d say, that the toughest a part of the entire course of was simply ready as a result of we had just about agreed with them that we might purchase their residence, however we had by no means seen it earlier than. And there have been some footage on-line that we might take a look at, however they have been older and we didn’t know, like how a lot had it been up to date since that point. So after we went in it for the primary time, the primary and solely time, it was October. It was such a surreal expertise. We took our youngsters to my mother’s home for the day as a result of we didn’t need. Like, I don’t know. I feel it’s form of exhausting to take a look at a home with children, but in addition I needed them to see it for the primary time when it was both empty or with their stuff within the bedrooms. I feel it’s tougher to think about for little children when there’s like a completely furnished residence. So just a few first impressions, the factor that we love concerning the residence probably the most is the curb enchantment. It seems form of precisely like the house from the Household stone, the film has a bit of tiny little bit of father of the bride. It’s identical to the right prefer it seems like a film home from the surface, which is, it’s actually cute, which is like Final Elsie Dream. And, you understand, I like actually, actually needed an previous residence. So this residence was constructed within the early 19 a whole lot and it is extremely previous inside it. The surface of it is extremely conventional. I feel that it’s technically a colonial revival, however some folks take a look at it and assume farmhouse too, cuz it has massive porches that form of wrap. After which on the within, it has just a few unbelievable unique options. It has a staircase that’s attractive on the entry. It has a hearth within the kitchen, which is like my factor that I freaked out about once I noticed it and understood as a result of that’s one in every of my desires is having a hearth within the kitchen. It’s identical to the fanciest, Nancy Meyers. Yeah. And apart from that, it has actually plenty of potentials to be improved as a result of it’s been renovated quite a bit and it’s fairly plain. The options are fairly plain. There’s virtually no crown molding and issues like that that you’d anticipate from a house, from its period. So I might see us including much more like historic particulars, however something that we’re holding, after which we will certainly add extra.
Emma: Have you ever purchased something for the home but? Like what was the very first thing you purchased?
Elise: Ooh. Okay, to this point we had our closing final week and I met with a wooden floors particular person, so I bought that booked, which was thrilling and I picked a specialty wooden flooring for the entryway, which is form of just like the diamond sample, you’ve most likely seen them like a painted on diamond sample, however the one which we’re doing is with two colours of stain. So it’s a bit of bit extra refined. I feel it’ll be actually fairly, I hope and the factor I’ve purchased to this point is just lighting fixtures. So I requested my in-laws if I might begin transport lighting fixtures to their residence, and I don’t assume they knew what they have been saying sure to. There are plenty of bots within the residence which have modernized lighting fixtures, so I’ve been shopping for virtually all vintage lighting fixtures to modify. After which just a few conventional ones, so perhaps I can present a pair within the present notes this week. I feel that will likely be enjoyable. Largely, I’ve been looking for vintage ones from Etsy and that’s been plenty of enjoyable. That’s most likely one in every of my prime favourite issues to buy vintage stuff for positive. I haven’t purchased anything but.
Emma: Nicely, what do you assume you’re gonna miss most about your own home that you simply’re presently dwelling in? Or perhaps like what you’re gonna miss most about Nashville, Tennessee typically as a result of it’s such an amazing city.
Elise: Yeah. Okay. So what I’m gonna miss about Nashville, clearly, like I’ve some actually particular associates right here that I’m gonna miss. However so far as like companies, I’ve this restaurant known as spares, that’s my final, we go there for birthdays and celebrations and it’s actually particular. We love Dinos, there are plenty of cute boutiques right here. Our pal has a boutique in East Asheville known as Apple and Oak. There are plenty of particular locations that we’re gonna miss and undoubtedly Hewitt the backyard middle. It’s one in every of my final favourite locations I really like, I all the time joke that I moved to this facet of city to only be subsequent to that Backyard Heart, which isn’t actually a lie. It’s superb. It’s so, so attractive. So I’m gonna miss so many issues, however so far as our residence, I feel the hidden library is the factor that’s the toughest to depart. So we knew that we weren’t gonna keep initially after we first began that renovation. So I’ve identified the entire time. The opposite factor I’m gonna actually miss about this house is the library eating room. I used to be so happy with that, I had a lot enjoyable placing it collectively, and virtually all of the books are spooky. It was enjoyable, that was a dream venture. And general, I really like this residence. If we have been staying in Tennessee, I’d keep right here ceaselessly. It’s residence and it actually works. I’m gonna miss so many issues about it. And somebody requested me like when you might transport your house, would you, and like in comparison with the house that we’re shifting to, I feel I nonetheless simply needed an previous residence so dangerous that I perhaps would swap, however that’s actually the one factor. The one cause so many individuals don’t even like previous properties, you understand? The place we dwell in Tennessee it’s not an previous residence space, it’s a brand new residence space. It’s like all the things’s new and it seems very nice. And so I feel that whoever strikes right here will adore it for what it’s. They usually’re most likely not an individual who desires like 120-year-old residence.
Emma: However hopefully they need a really adorned residence cuz yours accomplished. Which is good, I feel. However thanks.
Elise: It’s been enjoyable displaying it. We’ve been engaged on promoting it for some time and the suggestions is normally very nice, however for lots of people, I do assume it’s plenty of wallpaper and stuff. So I feel that the house will have to be both renovated or going to somebody who likes wallpaper however I don’t have any regrets in any respect about that. Although I do know not everybody likes wallpaper. I simply assume it seems so good on this residence. So I’d moderately it go to somebody who simply sees that and likes it. However you understand, in the end I don’t get to choose and it form of doesn’t matter. It’s not gonna be my residence anymore.
Emma: Yeah. Nicely, it’s not the costliest factor to take away the wallpaper when you don’t like wallpaper. Yeah, I imply, there are far more costly adjustments you may have made these folks would’ve been like, oh, nicely, you understand, that’s like true ripping out tile or backsplashes or counter tops, these are far more costly than wallpaper.
Elise: However yeah, we’re undoubtedly gonna miss it. And it’s like undoubtedly unhappy. And I might see us coming to Nashville rather a lot sooner or later, and we all the time got here right here rather a lot earlier than we lived right here. It’s an amazing place. I don’t really feel able to say goodbye to it in any respect, so I’m simply not going to.
Emma: Yeah, Nashville is superior. I’m positive we’ll go to loads. It’ll be enjoyable. And in some methods too, cuz you’ll have like form of contemporary eyes.
Elise: That’s true. There are much more lodges in Nashville now. Once we first moved right here, there have been one or two cool lodges. Now there are like 10. So I feel that’s cool too. We are able to come keep in one of many fancy new lodges and get room service and that’ll be actually totally different.
Emma: Yeah, and you’ve got fairly just a few like actually good associates there, so it’s not such as you’ll by no means go to cuz you’ll wanna see your mates. So yeah, like Ting and Jason. So anyway, I’ll say a few issues I’m enthusiastic about.
Elise: Oh yeah. I wanna hear. Everybody desires to listen to your perspective. That’s just like the primary factor folks ask me is how does Emma really feel? What does Emma assume? So say it.
Emma: Oh, that’s candy. I assumed it was cool that you simply needed to dwell in New York. Like I stated, I feel it was neat how a lot you had modified your thoughts on it from different instances we’d visited New York and I’d’ve liked visiting you there. However I keep in mind while you advised me, I keep in mind pondering. Oh, I’m simply not gonna see her as a lot. Not as a result of I don’t wanna go to New York or as a result of it’s an excessive amount of cash or one thing, however ever since I had Oscar, I simply have visited Nashville rather a lot much less. It’s simply exhausting to be away from him. And naturally, we’ve introduced Oscar to Nashville just a few instances, and we’ll keep for longer when we’ve him there with us. However that’s additionally form of difficult differently too, you understand? So I used to be identical to, oh, I’m simply not gonna see her as a lot. So I feel that the factor that I’m most enthusiastic about with you shifting house is I’ll get to see you extra, which is nice for work in fact as a result of we will batch work collectively fairly quickly we’re desirous to do the factor with our podcast the place we document collectively and we will movie it so we will put it on like YouTube or various things like that, which I feel will likely be actually enjoyable. However greater than something, I’ve simply felt like since I grew to become a mother, I’ve rather a lot much less time to be an aunt and it makes me actually unhappy as a result of I really like being an aunt. It’s the most effective, and I simply don’t go away residence as a lot or as actually because once I do, I don’t see my son, and that’s all the time exhausting. And so figuring out that you simply guys will likely be on the town, it’s like, oh, nicely I can simply carry him over Saturday mornings and I can choose up some McDonald’s hash browns on the best way, and I’ll be goldie’s hero. It’s simply simpler. Will probably be a lot simpler to get in some ant time, after which additionally simpler for work stuff too. In order that’s actually thrilling. And I really feel like we talked about this in some unspecified time in the future, however, so after faculty, I moved to Los Angeles for just a few years, solely like three years. So not so long as you’ve lived in Nashville in any respect and it’s a totally totally different season of my life. I wasn’t married, and I didn’t have children. Complete totally different age, blah, blah, blah. However I keep in mind once I moved residence feeling form of melancholy about it at first. Not as a result of I didn’t like Springfield, cuz I used to be excited to maneuver residence and work with you. We have been actually beginning a phenomenal mess again then, which it’s really known as Pink Velvet, we had an area retailer. We do quite a few issues with it. However anyway, so I used to be enthusiastic about that. I used to be excited to see my household extra. However I feel one thing about dwelling within the city you grew up in, one thing about it feels a bit of bit like, oh, I didn’t make it farther than this. Have you learnt what I imply? Just like the literal distance, which now that I’m, perhaps you don’t really feel this fashion cuz you’re older and extra mature than I used to be at that age. I feel I used to be like 25 or six when this was occur. However now I don’t actually even really feel prefer it issues the place I dwell. I feel by way of much more of like what I would like from life so far as like a profession and a household. And to me, dwelling someplace that’s a bit of bit simpler to see household and simply being trustworthy right here, a bit of bit cheaper than another areas of the nation. It makes it simpler to journey and see issues that I perhaps wouldn’t see as a result of if I used to be dwelling in a costlier place, which for me Los Angeles was much more costly than dwelling in Springfield, Missouri, I simply didn’t have as a lot cash to do issues that I needed to do. And I feel that’s modified with each time and age, but in addition identical to the world. So, anyway. I don’t actually know the place I’m going with this, I’m simply kind of saying some perhaps encouraging issues, perhaps not, I don’t know, however identical to, I don’t know. I feel generally it feels a bit of melancholy to maneuver again to the place you’re from, however it’s really been the most effective issues I ever did and I hope it feels that method for you. I feel it should.
Elise: Thanks for sharing that. That’s actually candy. Yeah, I virtually didn’t put the New York half into the story. I don’t really feel able to leaving it out. That’s why I put it in, however I virtually didn’t put it in as a result of I don’t wish to get one million feedback which might be like, it’s best to have moved to New York. I do know that it’s a greater metropolis with extra alternatives for my youngsters, like a extra thrilling place. Like I do know that clearly. I didn’t need them to be in contrast as a result of you possibly can’t evaluate them and they need to by no means be in contrast. A small city in Missouri ought to by no means be in comparison with New York Metropolis. However for me I don’t really feel unhappy, I don’t assume in the identical method, however the cause why one in every of our massive causes was that after you have children and we’ve a dedication to seeing our household being there for the vacations, being there, there are a number of instances all year long after we’re all the time in Missouri. So we just about felt like we lived in Nashville, however we spent all of our trip time going to Missouri and we actually did, partly it was due to Covid, however partly it’s simply because we don’t have sufficient capability. We’ve hardly traveled wherever with our youngsters in addition to going to Missouri time and again for the previous 4 years. That is likely one of the causes, I don’t know if it’s a cause why we’re shifting, however it’s a giant benefit of it or a giant professional from the professionals and cons checklist. Is that we gained’t should journey anymore for Christmas and for each single summer season. We normally go about 4 or 5 instances a yr and as a substitute of getting to satisfy these obligations, we might be capable of go to different locations, which is what we actually wish to do. After which for these holidays and stuff, we might simply already be there as a result of we dwell there. I feel that was a reasonably compelling cause for us as a result of we do wanna journey with our youngsters and we wish to go to a a lot greater number of locations. And after we considered dwelling in New York, which is a spot with an enormous quantity of tradition and alternatives for our youngsters. However we wouldn’t actually be capable of go wherever aside from staying there and going again to Missouri on a regular basis to satisfy our obligation. So anyway, that’s for positive a giant cause. And anybody who lives away out of your hometown, away from your loved ones, who has children I do know, understands, it’s an advanced give and take and that we’re all simply making an attempt to make these two issues join.
Emma: Yeah. And there’s like no excellent place to dwell typically. And likewise like anybody who would go away you a remark like, it’s best to dwell right here moderately than right here in your children. That’s simply foolish. They don’t know your children, they’re not their mother and father. That’s simply ridiculous. So I don’t assume you really want to fret about that. I feel you’re giving your children an amazing childhood and plenty of alternatives to see their household, to see various things on the earth to develop their pursuits. I’m not frightened about them, so that you don’t have to be both.
Elise: Thanks. We’re doing our greatest and it’s undoubtedly the happiest time of my life I’m enthusiastic about this subsequent season. I feel that we’ll be capable of obtain plenty of our targets and be capable of give a bit of bit extra to our youngsters by way of household time, touring, yeah, a lot of various things. So we had a factor down right here that was like, how is that this gonna have an effect on a phenomenal mess or a podcast? So yeah, I feel that it’s gonna have an effect on a phenomenal mess in a reasonably considerably optimistic method. Emma wouldn’t say this, however I can admit it, that she was like, carrying all the things for a very long time, particularly since I had children. However actually earlier than that too, she all the time visited me much more than I visited her and she or he would come for devoted work time. After I would come to Missouri, I wouldn’t have time to work cuz we might be doing all of our household obligations. I feel that Emma was making it work for us to work lengthy distance, after which when she grew to become a mother, it began to turn out to be clear that I couldn’t simply ask her to return anytime I needed anymore and that wasn’t going to maintain working. So we simply weren’t gonna see one another as a lot, which additionally is ok. I feel that we might have stored working lengthy distance. I don’t assume it was dysfunctional like we bought good at it, however I feel that so far as desirous to be a quote unquote model collectively, simply taking images and movies collectively is a lot tougher while you’re combining it into like 5 instances a yr that you simply see one another. Have you learnt what I imply? Then when you are able to do it on a daily Tuesday. So I do assume that it’ll most likely have an effect on our weblog enterprise and the podcast in a extremely optimistic method, simply because the comfort degree is gonna go up a hundredfold. Yeah. And we’re gonna begin doing the video podcast, which I’m enthusiastic about. We’re gonna begin recording collectively in particular person. We’ve accomplished it earlier than just a few instances. It’s kinda like good like I feel the vitality is a bit of bit totally different and I don’t know, I’m used to this, so I don’t really feel like there’s like an issue with it. I feel we’ll simply be like in a extra snug routine and I feel it’ll come off that technique to our viewers.
Emma: Yeah. I don’t know if it’s gonna really feel that totally different for our viewers. I feel it should, however I feel greater than you assume they’ll discover something. I feel greater than something it’ll really feel higher to us. It’ll simply be simpler in some methods, and perhaps they gained’t even see it, which is completely nice. You don’t should see how simple or exhausting work is. However hopefully, it all the time appears simple from the surface. However I feel it will likely be, I feel it’ll really feel simpler for us. In order that’ll be good. It’ll be nice. It’ll be superior.
Elise: I feel so too. I’m excited. I really feel like, I’m additionally nonetheless shocked, like I’m nonetheless so stunned that it’s even taking place, however I feel it’s gonna be superb and, I can’t wait to indicate the home, so I’ll put a bit of one thing on my Instagram at the moment, so you possibly can see just a bit peek and yeah, over the subsequent few months we’ll share much more. I’m not like Emma, I don’t really feel as non-public about my home. I like sharing it for enjoyable. I’m so excited. Nicely, let’s go on then to our new phase. A joke or a truth with Nova. All proper. We’re prepared for a joke or a truth with Nova. Right here’s Nova.
Nova: So I’m going to do exactly jokes at the moment. Okay. After which subsequent week I’m gonna begin my truth and jokes. Okay. So why did a cookie go to the physician? As a result of he was feeling a bit of bit crummy. Oh, that’s one. And the way do you propose a celebration in area, you planet.
Elsie: All proper. Thanks a lot for listening. I’m so excited to share this journey with you. Subsequent week we’ll be again for half two, sharing extra particulars about long-distance renovating, getting our Tennessee residence able to checklist, and what’s taking place with the Pink Home. We’ll even be sharing our e-book report for this time tomorrow. So when you’re studying in real-time, right here is your warning.
Emma: End your e-book. Individuals have been speaking about it.
